What is the most relevant sentence, or quote you ever read? As a writer, I’m also a reader and like Steven King once said “If you want to be a writer, you must do two things above all others; read a lot and write a lot..” and there’s more to it, but you get the point! I’ve read a lot of meaningful words in my years, but one in particular has influenced me the most;
“Dead people receive more flowers than the living ones, because regret is stronger than gratitude.”
The first time I comprehended these words, it hit me like a ton of bricks and threw me into an instant reality check. After a brief moment of self-reflection, I knew I had some issues to put to rest. We’ve all experienced regret at some point in our lives, whether it was small and short-lived or an ongoing process of horrible choices that we made and it happens to the best of us. In my own experiences, I’ve made more mistakes than I care to think about. All of them resulting in self-inflicted guilt, but today, I’ve taken some steps to work through these issues and move forward. I’ve listed some coping strategies that benefited me up to this point. I’m still a work in progress and it gets better. 🌝
Strategies to Overcome Regret
Accept what’s already happened can’t be undone. Acknowledge the mistakes you’ve made and realize that they can’t be reversed. Embracing reality and acknowledging the truth is the first step toward releasing regret.
Take care of yourself – emotionally and mentally. Don’t beat yourself up. If you’re a writer, make a list of all your good qualities and how they apply to you. Write a positive affirmation once a day and identify how it relates to you. Journaling is great for keeping track of your days – highlights, mood, ect. Do the things you can to open your heart to grace the relief that comes from no longer carrying the burden of blame.
Made amends with those you’ve wronged – unless it would cause harm to yourself or others. Analyze the situation, the damage done and the actions you need to take to mend the relationship. Be patient and give it some time. Remember, time heals most wounds.
Leave the past where it happened. Don’t keep talking about your failures and mistakes. The more you give voice to them, the larger they will appear. Release anything that reminds you of the regrettable action.
Do the opposite of what you regret. We can’t change the past, but what we do have control over is how we’ll live our lives going forward. Regret is a painful, albeit effective teacher. Learn from its lessons. Though we are all subject to the same human condition, and we will continue to make mistakes as long as we live, taking note of what regret has taught us can prevent the repeating of similar actions we will be sorry for in the future. Replace regretful contemplation with positive action. Channel your thoughts into what is uplifting. Read something that inspires you
These steps have changed my life for the better, but I still have a long way to go. I will continue to share future experiences in relevance to this post. Have a good night and Good bless.
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